Hi. I'm a Male. Shocking I know right. I'm also a photographer...a professional one at that. So here's my minor little pet peeve about being a male photographer out in the world. I'm a professional, meaning I do my job with the utmost care, consideration, sensitivity, and of course Professionalism. Still, potential female clients that are considering shooting in a provocative or boudoir style are very hesitant to do so with me, simply based on the fact I'm not female.
When sick women go to the Doctor, male or female they have the same training, same expertise, same education. Generally there's no preference...at least for most and most of the time. The same goes with me. I've had a lot of the same training, same expertise, most of the same education although that varies greatly from photographer to photographer but the basics are there like they are for all of us. But as soon as the prospect of a little bit of skin comes into play..."I'm not sure I'm comfortable" "do you have a female assistant that could shoot it" "maybe after I lose 3 lbs" etc etc etc are things I've heard countless times.
I know...I'm not a woman and don't know the first thing about the insecurities and day to day judgement you ladies get being bombarded by images in the media of what beauty is, how a woman should look, should dress, should buy etc. It must be exhausting for most of you and I get that, I really do. But if you're already open to the idea of boudoir or nude photographs you obviously have a certain confidence, about you. Gender of the photographer shouldn't really matter so much. Take the photo of the young lady at the start of this post. Before we shot together we had never met. We'd exchanged emails a couple of times but otherwise did not know each other. But when we shot together we had a great time. Even though she was in lingerie or topless for most of the shoot we were able to keep it relaxed and fun. We were joking and laughing the entire time. It was so fun, and it left me wondering...why can't all boudoir style photo sessions be like this and more importantly why can't all woman have the outstanding attitude she did.
Is it the nudity? Do you think I'm getting all "hot and bothered" to see a little skin. The short answer is NO!! 100% NO NO a hundred times NOOO!!. Recently I had a bit of an epiphany while shooting a maternity session with a couple of friends of mine and part of that session involved the young lady being topless. The thing that surprised me somewhat was during the session I didn't think twice about it. I just did my job, captured the photos they wanted as a professional would. The fact that this lovely lady that I'd known for years was topless in front of me didn't even cross my mind. Not until after of course when I realized that the photographer part of my brain was all that was in gear, and the job got done. Period.
So what I think I'm trying to say is that I encourage you ladies to become a bit more gender blind when it comes to your photographer. The same way that I become professional and just do the job I'm hired for.
Ladies, lets start a revolution...lets all let the photographer's work speak louder than that voice in your head that says "but he's a man". I promise you will not be disappointed with the results and we will have fun, no matter what you're wearing.